Happy New Year's!
Well, here it is, the last day of one of the best years of my life.
December 31, 2006 found me in the bed crying my eyes out and feeling sorry for myself because my girlfriend and I weren’t speaking after I hit the roof over her smart ass comment about me taking a second trip to the buffet while in Las Vegas. That comment resulted in me being embarrassed and then hiding it by bitching about that and everything else under the sun the whole way back to Los Angeles.
I came into 2007 236 pounds, alone, depressed, and unsure of myself. The day of the Oscar’s I was officially dumped which sent me into an even deeper depression that magnified by love affair with food.
And despite all of that, I managed somehow to pull it together and to come out on top.
As the song goes, that don’t kill you only makes you stronger.
From losing 75 pounds this year to traveling to Sierra Leone with Isaiah Washington and then turning 30, 2007 for me, has been a milestone year.
And even though I am still hurt about the whole relationship thing, I will not take it with me into 2008. I don’t have room or the time for it.
Just like I am not taking with me anything or anyone that doesn’t fit into my master plan for how I choose to live my life today.
There are people that I had in my life coming into 2007 that won’t be coming with me on my journey in 2008 simply because I have made the conscientious choice to recognize that our time is done and their purpose has been served in my life and vice-versa.
And as I look towards 2008, I am thankful for my family and friends that helped me through 2007. While there are too many too name, they know who they are. And before I step into 2008, I'm taking the time to remember those who aren't here with me (MR, CB, JK R.I.P).
2008 is the year of accountability. Accountable to one’s self as well as to family, friends, and community.
I will be focused on being a better daughter, sister, aunt, granddaughter, niece, cousin, friend, co-worker, and eventually…lover.
2008 is also the year I quit smoking once and for all. It makes no sense to lose the weight only to die from cancer. Hello! It won’t be easy, but nothing ever is.
I will continue to live my with purpose and use the tools at my disposal to raise my voice on the issues and causes that are relevant to me as I encourage others to do the same.
2008 is the year that I do me.
Be safe, be well, and I’ll see you in 2008!
Last year you helped to raise $1,500, thank you very much. This year we’ve doubled our goal and are trying to reach $3,000. Your support will help to ensure that JasmyneCannick.com stays up and running in 2008, and I've got a lot planned.
Contributing is quick, easy and secure. All you need to do is click on the box at the top of the middle column for the fund drive and make your contribution. You can give $5, $50 or $500. Whatever you can give will make a huge difference. Given the amount of readers that JasmyneCannick.com receives on a daily basis, it shouldn’t be a problem to reach our goal of $3,000 by February 29, 2008.
JasmyneCannick.com is a labor of love. It’s not my money maker, please refer to my #6 on my Frequently Asked Questions page.
Now you may be sitting back asking yourself, why should I contribute to this campaign? Naturally, I’m two steps ahead of the game and below I’ve listed the top five reasons why you should contribute to JasmyneCannick.com’s Winter Fund Drive today.
5. You can always count on me to call it like I see it, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Even if it means protesting an alleged Grammy award-winning pedophile who married a 15 year-old when they were 27 or a white gay drag queen who gets his kicks off of dressing in Blackface and mocking African-American Southern women.
4. You don’t ever have to worry about me switching teams and then trying to convert all of you through my website. I’ll always be one of the gays!
3. Where else are you going to be able to have a real discussion about the issues in the Black lesbian community online like the subject of Perpetrating Lesbians, Lesbians Who Don't Reciprocate, and Exactly Who Is A Lesbian.
2. You don’t ever have to worry about me sugarcoating or downplaying the racism that exists in the gay movement or homophobia in the Black community, it is what it is. My only allegiance to my people and even though sometimes they have to be called out.
1. It’s no easy task putting your business all out in the streets. I spent the better part of this year chronicling my weight loss journey from fat to phat for the entire world to see and read. I think that should count for something. How many women do you know willing to let everybody and they momma know they got dumped, weighed 236 pounds, and suffered from extreme insecurity only to bounce back singing “told y'all I was gonna pump like this. Y'all didn't think that I could pump like this…”
So you see, your contribution is well worth it and makes the death threats, crank calls, and you Black nigger bitch's all worth it. Thanks in advance for your support.
See what had happened was... Vibe originally wanted me for their December cover, and then Keyshia Cole said that if she didn't get the cover, the interview was off. I told her to just Let It Go, but I couldn't compete with that so I got scrapped, but I'll always have the memories. Yeah right, just kidding, I wish, lol. Kudos to Son of Ellis for the drawing.
Check out my GOOGLE calendar of events for this weekend and the upcoming week.
Events include the 5th Annual FUSION LGBT People of Color Film Festival presented by OUTFEST. On Saturday, I'll be moderating a panel discussion entitled "Surviving and Thriving: How Does Your Identity Affect Your Health?" During the panel I will attempt to dissect the impact of distorted social images within the media as it relates to the LGBT community and people of color. There's a special screening of filmmaker Amber Sharp's new lesbian series "Don't Go" and here!TV's "DL Chronicles." For the complete schedule, check them out online. On Sunday, join us for our weekly hike.
Next week, the L.A.P.D. will hold their quarterly LGBT Issues Forum...
Have a great weekend!
Back from D.C. I needed a little break when I got back in town, fighting a cold and extremely tired. I'm sure you know how that is. Anyway, regular posting will resume tomorrow and as always there's lots to talk about.
I started updating my I Love L.A. list over the weekend. The idea came to me after one of my friends came to L.A. for a visit last week and I played the role of the tour guide. From taking her to the best soul food restaurant (which I dutifully stood outside of munchin' on a green apple while she was ordering, don't trip!) to giving her the history and relevance of Leimert Park to Blacks here in Los Angeles, I just realized again why I love Los Angeles.
West Adams, Compton, Sunday's on Crenshaw, Ingelwood, Ladera, Watts, Slauson, the Jungles, and more. From the fires, to the earthquakes, riots and all. Yeah, we got our share of problems, but this is home. I thought about moving to the East Coast, but for what? Everything and everyone I need is right here in Los Angeles.
It's because of this love and the constant questions I receive about where I got this or that, that I've decided to compile a list of my favorite places in Los Angeles. From where to get your hair done to where to get your grub on, the best nail salon to the best place for buying threads, these are the spots that I frequent the most in Los Angeles. Many of them, but not all are Black owned businesses because you know how I roll. It's all about Recycling Black Dollars.
So if you're in L.A. or you plan on visiting Los Angeles, check out a few of my favorite places and you'll understand why I love Los Angeles.
The photo above was taken at one of my favorite places, the Lucy Florence Coffee House and Cultural Center in Leimert Park where we hold the Los Angeles Urban Policy Roundtable on Saturday mornings. If you don't know, the roundtable's are discussions on critical issues facing Blacks. This week it was on whether or not Los Angeles should have a ban on sagging pants. More on that tomorrow...
Shout out to my boy Son of Ellis formerly known as Boulovani. He's behind all of the lovely drawings of yours truly. Love you.
So as you can see from my site, I’ve really gotten into the whole Halloween thing this year, lol. And why not?
So this past Saturday night we had our annual Halloween get together in Los Angeles with the proceeds going to the Gentlemen’s Gentlemen Youth and Young Adult Scholarship Program.
Kudos to Alan-Michael and Alfred for hosting and for everyone that helped and contributed. We had a great time as usual.
I decided that I’d be a Starbucks barista this year since I spend so much time there, lol. I think I pulled it off, lol.
Costumes at this year’s party ranged from Beyonce to Diana Ross, Zoo Keeper’s and wild animals, big baby’s, and I think I saw Zorro too! All in all, a good time was had by all and I got to partake in one of my favorite pastimes, hollering domino! Yeah, we slapped bones and played cards. It felt good to play bones again, I might have to have a little domino party at my house soon.
Looking forward to our holiday party…thanks again for all those that came and helped to spread the word, it’s much appreciated.
Hey, if you think your costume can top mine, lol…drop me an email with you in your costume, your name, and location. I’m thinking that if I get enough photos I’ll do a collage of photos showing our creativity and different costumes for this year on Friday, November 2.
Oh and here’s a photo from last year’s Halloween Party, what a difference a diet and some exercise can make!!!
With all the Obama drama going on this week, I haven't had time to say thank you to everyone who came out and helped me celebrate my 30th birthday this week. I had the time of my life and it was good to see my friends many of whom I hadn't seen in a while. And an extra special thank you to one friend, who shall remain anonymous, lol, who flew across the country, didn't tell nobody they were coming, walked into the party, and was like I'm here and I'm crashing at your place, lol!!! Talk about a surprise, but a good one! Big thanks to Michelle, Roz, and DJ Spark for hosting my party Michelle's XXX this week. It's not everyday a girl turns 30, lol! I had the time of my life. Also many thanks for all of the great emails, text messages, and shout outs from my cyberspace friends. It's all good. The partying continues this Saturday night...Have a great weekend!
...ON LIFE @ 30
Well, it’s finally here…my 30th birthday. It’s hard for me to believe that I am turning 30. Let’s just say I had to have a drink or two or three on that one alone.
I feel like I have accomplished a lot this year. It’s not every day a girl can say that she was dumped, spent two months depressed about it, and then 6 months later bounced back 72 pounds lighter with a whole new outlook on life. Hello?
As shallow as this might sound, of all the things I’ve accomplished this year, I am most proud of going from 236 to 164 pounds, without “medical intervention.” I like to call it sheer determination or as rapper Jay Z says, “I will not lose.”
Being fat, Black, and lesbian is no easy task. If you think Blacks are critical of one another, times it by three when it comes to the Black lesbian community where more often than not looks like Beyonce set the standard.
But today is a new day. One of the things I focused on during my weight loss was the fact that I’m not ever going to be 120, 130, or 140 pounds. It just ain’t in the cards. I’m a sista that was born with hips and ass and they ain’t going nowhere anytime soon. And at the same time, I learned this year that regardless of what the mainstream media tries to feed me, I know that most of America isn’t a 2. Try adding a 1 before that 2 and that’s the size of the average American woman.
In the beginning, I was losing this weight to get back at someone who made me feel less of a woman because I had more junk in my trunk than most. And don’t get me wrong…it worked. There’s nothing like the motivation of proving someone wrong to keep you going. And I’m going to be totally honest with you…again. Yes, I lost the weight, but no, I don’t feel any better inside about getting dumped. I thought I would, I mean it’s been like 8 months now. I really thought that once I lost the weight some magical aura would come over me and make me the happiest girl in the world, but that’s not how it works. You have to make yourself happy regardless of how much you weigh and I got that one day when I found myself boohooing in front of the television while watching “Phat Girls” starring comedian Mo’Nique. That movie, as corny as this is going to sound, really helped change my attitude about who I was and why I was losing the weight. So much so, that finally at the age of 30, I am more confident in myself than I have ever been in my life.
So for all of you out there that are struggling with your self-esteem and your weight, know that it’s okay to lose the weight and please use whatever motivation you need to to get to your goal. But while you’re doing it, also take some time to work on the you that’s inside so that regardless of your thickness, you know that your weight doesn’t make you. Know that you make you and that you are beautiful no matter what the scale or your girlfriend says!
Now onto the credits…I just want to take a moment to say thank you to all of the people in my life who have stuck by me through thick and thin and helped me grow as a person. I love Los Angeles and I love Black Los Angeles even more. In particular, to my BFF’s Alan-Michel, Keith, Maurice, Nevin, Dale, Dobby, Marquita, and Kristi…I love you much and thank you for everything. I couldn’t have made it this far without you. To the Cannick fam and extended fam, I love you too, and thank you for everything.
Today my Jukebox features some of my favorite songs that have gotten me through rough times. Truly the soundtrack to my life...Enjoy!
A LOOK BACK AT 1977
While my mom and dad were busy getting it on here's a snapshot of the world I was born into...
World Population: 4.230 billion
AROUND THE WORLD...
French Somaliland, also known as Afar & Issa-land (after its main tribal groups), the present Djibouti, gains independence fro France. Egyptian President Anwar Sadat becomes the first Arab leader to officially visit Israel when he meets with Israeli Prime Minister Menachem Begin, seeking a permanent peace settlement. Jean-Bédel Bokassa>, president of the Central African Republic, crowns himself Emperor. Deng Xiaoping, purged Chinese leader, restored to power as Gang of Four is expelled from Communist Party (July 22). South African activist Steve Biko dies in police custody (Sept. 12). Nuclear-proliferation pact, curbing spread of nuclear weapons, is signed by 15 countries, including US and USSR (Sept. 21).
IN THE U.S...
U.S. President: James Earl Carter, Jr.
U.S. Vice President: Walter F. Mondale
U.S. Population: 220,239,425
Life expectancy: 73.3 years
Violent Crime Rate (per 1,000): 50.8
Property Crime Rate (per 1,000): 46.0
The Modern Food Stamp Program began when the Food Stamp Act of 1977 was signed into law. First woman Episcopal priest ordained (Jan. 1). Scientists identify previously unknown bacterium as cause of mysterious "legionnaire's disease" (Jan. 18). Carter pardons Vietnam war draft evaders (Jan. 21). Supreme Court rules that states are not required to spend Medicaid funds on elective abortions (June 20). Focus on the Family is founded by Dr. James Dobson. The Commodore PET computer is first sold. Atari 2600 game system is released. Color TV Game 6 is created by Nintendo.
US GDP (1998 dollars):;$2,026.90 billion
Federal spending: $409.22 billion
Federal debt: $706.4 billion
Median Household Income (current dollars): $13,572
Consumer Price Index: 60.6
Cost of a first-class stamp: $0.13
Cost of a new home: $54,200.00
Cost of a gallon of regular gas: $0.62
Cost of a dozen eggs: $0.82
Cost of a gallon of Milk: $1.68
Oakland d. Minnesota (32-14)
NY Yankees d. LA Dodgers (4-2)
Portland d. Philadelphia 76ers (4-2)
Montreal d. Boston (4-0)
Women: Virginia Wade d. B. Stove (4-6 6-3 6-1)
Men: Bjorn Borg d. J. Connors (3-6 6-2 6-1 5-7 6-4)
Kentucky Derby Champion
NCAA Basketball Championship
Marquette d. North Carolina (67-59)
NCAA Football Champions
Notre Dame (11-1-0)
Academy Award, Best Picture: Rocky, Irwin Winkler and Robert Chartoff, producers (United Artists)
Nobel Prize for Literature: Vicente Aleixandre (Spain)
Record of the Year: "This Masquerade," George Benson
Album of the Year: Songs in the Key of Life, Stevie Wonder (Tamla/Motown)
Song of the Year: "I Write the Songs," Bruce Johnston, songwriter
Miss America: Dorothy Kathleen Benham (MN)
The TV miniseries Roots draws an audience of 130 million. Star Wars hits theaters--for the first time--and will go on to be the second highest-grossing film of all time. Saturday Night Fever sparks the disco inferno and the popularity of movie soundtracks. Elvis Presley dies at Graceland, his Memphis, Tenn. home. He was 42. Toni Morrison’s Song of Solomon is published. Talking Heads' debut album Talking Heads: 77 is released. June 8 - Kanye West was born.
Billboard’s Top Pop Songs
1. Tonight's The Night (Gonna Be Alright) Rod Stewart Warner Brothers
2. I Just Want To Be Your Everything Andy Gibb Rso
3. Best Of My Love Emotions Columbia
4. Love Theme From A Star Is Born Barbra Streisand Columbia
5. Angel In Your Arms Hot Big Tree
Billboard’s Top Pop Albums
1. Rumours Fleetwood Mac Warner Brothers
2. Songs In The Key Of Life Stevie Wonder Tamla
3. A Star Is Born Soundtrack Columbia
4. Hotel California Eagles Asylum
5. Boston Boston Epic
Prime Time Line-Up in 1977
|ABC||The Hardy Boys/Nancy Drew Mysteries||The Six Million Dollar Man||The ABC Sunday Movie|
|CBS||60 Minutes||Rhoda||On Our Own||All in the Family||Alice||Kojak|
|NBC||The Wonderful World of Disney||The Big Event|
|ABC||The San Pedro Beach Bums||ABC NFL Monday Night Football|
|CBS||Young Dan'l Boone||The Betty White Show||Maude||Rafferty|
|NBC||Little House on the Prairie||NBC Monday Night at the Movies|
|ABC||Happy Days||Laverne and Shirley||Three's Company||Soap||Family|
|CBS||The Fitzpatricks||M*A*S*H||One Day at a Time||Lou Grant|
|NBC||The Richard Pryor Show||Mulligan's Stew||Police Woman|
|ABC||Eight is Enough||Charlie's Angels||Baretta|
|CBS||Good Times||Busting Loose||The CBS Wednesday Movie|
|NBC||The Life and Times of Grizzly Adams||The Oregon Trail||Big Hawaii|
|ABC||Welcome Back, Kotter||What's Happening!!||Barney Miller||Carter Country||The Redd Foxx Comedy Hour|
|CBS||The Waltons||Hawaii Five-O||Barnaby Jones|
|NBC||CHiPs||Man from Atlantis||Rosetti and Ryan|
|ABC||Donny & Marie||The ABC Friday Night Movie|
|CBS||The New Adventures of Wonder Woman||Logan's Run||Switch!|
|NBC||The Sanford Arms||Chico and the Man||The Rockford Files||Quincy, M.E.|
|ABC||Fish||Operation Petticoat||Starsky and Hutch||The Love Boat|
|CBS||The Bob Newhart Show||We've Got Each Other||The Jeffersons||The Tony Randall Show||The Carol Burnett Show|
|NBC||The Bionic Woman||NBC Saturday Night at the Movies|
Enjoy the rest of your week...I know I will! Regular posting to resume on Monday.