According to an interview with the Queen on Essence.com...in true royal fashion, the Golden Globe and Grammy winner has added a twist to her campaign. Rather than obsessing over skinny jeans, she wants to be an example of good health and nutrition for the masses by focusing on losing 5 to 10 percent of her body weight. And as she states in her upcoming commercial spots, which officially kick off January 21st – “I see myself getting healthier, having more energy and feeling better.”
I was watching ABCs Good Morning America this morning when the Queen explained that she was comfortable with herself at 200+ pounds. I stopped and thought about that. I hear that a lot from women, that they’re okay with being 200 and 300 pounds. To be honest, I don’t really believe them. Speaking from my own experience, I was not, I repeat not, comfortable or happy with being 236 pounds. Sure, I dressed it up well and I never let on to anyone but my close friends about how I truly felt about my body image, and even then they didn't know about the late night trips to McDonald's that resulted in me not even making it out of the parking lot before I gobbled down my nine piece nuggets, supersize fries, strawberry shake, and two apple pies. Yeah like that. I would tell people that I was fine with myself, but I knew the truth. I sometimes wonder if we tell ourselves something so much to the point that we actually believe it.
I remember speaking at the ULOAH’s Sistahfest last year and there was a sista there that was at least 300 pounds. She told me point blankly and rather defiantly that she was fine with herself and that it was society that had the problem, not her. True, society at large does have issues when it comes to weight, I’ll give her that but I draw the line at this notion that at 300 pounds she was “fine.” But like I said, we lie to ourselves about everything else so what makes weight any different. I did it. I swear what I saw in the mirror the few times I dared to look was not what everyone else saw. In my mirror I was like 150 pounds, lol, when in reality I was 230 something pounds.
I’m all for healthy self-esteem, but I’m a realist too and I just don’t think it’s all that healthy to tell ourselves and the world that we’re happy and fine at 200 plus pounds. And then what message is that sending as well?
We already know that as Black women we’re on a different size chart, and we should be. What they’re out buying, we were naturally blessed with. But at the same time, I was 5’6” at 236 pounds, probably more than that at one point and I was not healthy, physically or mentally no matter how well I dressed it up. And for me to get healthy didn’t require me to lose 100 pounds either. I would never want to lose my assets and be a size 0, 2, or 4. Speaking of size 0, while we were hiking last Sunday, Kirsten Dunst passed by us and I was amazed at how skinny she was. I am not sure what the size before 0 is but she was smaller than a 0. Actually, it was a little scary how skinny she was and I love Kirsten, she’s one my favorite actresses. But that’s Kirsten and not your average sista.
Anyways, I’m glad for the Queen. Maybe now she’ll be able to get that “good brotha” she always says she’s lookin’ for.