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Wednesday, December 05, 2007

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Ellie

I dislike weaves too! although i'm only partially black, i WISH i could make my hair go back to afro! my hair is straight now because it's easier to manage but i think that afro looks so much better! i find straight so boring and played out, afro has more character, more personality! for all you black women blessed with your good hair, you should APPRECIATE having thick, black, curly hair. because it is absolutely BEAUTIFUL! weaves are not! appreciate your natural beauty because you ARE queens! as long as you love yourself, your roots, and your natural hair!

Courtney

I occasionally wear weave/extensions for the following reasons:
1)I'm trying to grow out a haircut and can't deal with that awkward in-between stage.
2)I don't feel like dealing with my hair.
3)I'm bored with my hair and want a different look.
4)I'm going out of town and don't want to spend too much time dealing with my hair or worrying about it getting messed up.
My reasons for wearing extensions stem from me being easily bored/lazy/impatient, and not from me trying to be white.
Not everyone who wears weaves/extensions suffers from anglophilia. I've seen women with weaves that look like natural black hair as opposed to straight caucasian hair. I agree with Courtnie about blacks with natural hair having that air of self-righteousness. I'm not saying that all of them are like that, but I've encountered a good number who were. I also agree with Jasmyne about black folks being brainwashed into thinking white is right. Just look at Lil' Kim (worst case of anglophilia I've seen since Michael Jackson) or watch BET for an hour and you'll see more than one example.

Oh but courtnie they do care. When was the last time you heard a brotha say yo i'm checkin for the sista with the nappy afro. please jas is right on about the hair. weaves are an attempt to look white because most of believe thats more acceptable. spare me the manageable bs.

courtnie

Each time I hear blacks criticize other black women for wearing weave it disturbs me. Why? Because, that's our problem we are focused on small issues such as how we wear our hair which distracts us from REAL issues. Yeah, some would argue that if you have permed hair with extensions you believe Caucasian hair is better, hence setting black people back years. I've had long, short, permed, and natural hair. However, I personally like the versatility perm hair gives me with different styles and lengths. Wearing straight hair does not make me less black or authentic. When I hear blacks with natural hair discuss this topic they always come off as self-righteous. It's self-righteous black women that set black people back, not women that wear weave. Regardless of how we wear our hair, black women should be uniting. In the end, no body gives a crap about how your hair is done, but what our you doing for your people.

Promises

Jaysmine you are the bomb!! Your articles are always on point. The one about the hair . . . what can I say? Keep up the good work. I guess our people will have to find themselves back in chains on a plantation, before they get it.

Mimi

That is just as shocking today as it was when it first came out, however, it should be pointed out that not only do blacks fall for this "white" is better thing, Asians, Latin Americans, Asian Indians all prefer "whiter" features and look with disdain at anyone darker. Which to me is as silly as all out, since "white" folks are the minorty on the planet and will disapper with the low birthrates in the future.

Honey

I am surprised hair is such an issue, I am a Brit of Nigerian descent and at no time has having straight hair been idealised in Nigeria. You can do whatever you want with your hair and in Nigeria, there are a myriad of styles. Nigerians actually take delight in how thick your hair is as your hair is your natural crowning glory and no one wants a bald wife, daughter, sister etc. I braid my hair in all sorts of styles and work in England where you can do what you like on your head as long as you look professional. I find it a bit odd that a lot of 2nd/3rd generation Black Brits have the hair issue as well, there is an obsession with straight hair. I find a lot of people (in Britain we are equal opportunity lovers) flirt with me when I wear my hair in single braids than when I have my hair cornrowed which my boyfriend loves because I look regal.
I think when it comes to hair, do what makes you happy, however I find it strange that anyone wants to chemically straighten their hair with the weather we have in Europe, I have seen so many people's hair break off or recede.
I have always loved darker skin, there is a uniformity to the texture of the skin. However i am lighter skinned than my sister and I am seen as the better looking one which is quite odd, but I suppose being thinner might be the reason as opposed to the skin colour.
Though I will admit that lighter skin is idealised in Nigeria, straight hair is not.
I do find I am more militant in my campaigning for racial equality unlike my sister who is more intellectual about it. I suppose I am overcompensating for having a lighter hue.

Tracey

No Keisha,

Since you can't read very well. My hair is my own and natural. And if some sista wants a weave its not your business or mine!

keisha

tracey i take it ur one them sportin' a weave, lol. no need to get a bent out of shape.

N.D.

P.S.

You are right about the respect from the brothers too.

I have walked into a room with some weaved friends and the men cat call them. Me they give much respect too (while still hitting on me of course but greater respect nonetheless). One man even said "You look like an intellectual, most sista's who wear their hair natural are. I think that's sexy. It makes you stand out from the hoochies."

N.D Smith

Jasmyne, you are one smart cookie! So don't be upset with the other cookies who aren't as smart as you. Most black woman have no idea how beautiful their natural hair is. At the first sign of kink in the hair our mothers rushed us to the salon like we had the plague or something. Black women today have not the faintest clue of how to take care of their natural hair nor do they know how wonderful it is to be black and proud of their god given protection for the brain. Our hair is strong! Our hair is beautiful! If you know how to care for it.
Rule #1
Stay away from products with alcohol! White folks products people...our hair wasnt made for that, although we try to make our hair like theirs, wake up...its not!
I have been natural for over 5 years now and just 6 months ago, I started locking. Its not a fashion statement for me, its a spiritual journey. My old behind went back to college and i figured I'd lock the knowledge learned into my brain and lock my hair as the symbol of my mission. They are still baby locks but I love them because I gave birth to them myself!

I went back to a relaxer one time after going natural (because my weave wearing friends convinced me I was prettier with white girl hair) and I HATED IT! I missed my beautiful natural curls. Tight curls! but curls nonetheless. There is nothing like the texture between your fingers, especially when washing my hair in the shower; it feels so good. I felt like a race trader with that straight crap on my head. Yeah it was long and flowing the first couple of days, but it wasnt long before it was a fried, broken mess. I couldn't wait to cut that "Say it loud! I wanna be white, I'm not proud (of being black)stuff off of my head!
And please don't get me started on hair weaves. Remember the powdery white wigs men used to wear in colonial times? Looks ridiculous now doesn't it? That was the stuff way back then! Well hopefully one day soon, black women will see just how ridiculous they look and weave (especially, straight, flowing, know good and well you ain't white weave) will be a distant embarrasment from our past.

My hair is thiccckkkkk and coarse and grows like a weed. No its not easy to manage, but it wasn't no walk in the park when i had a perm either. The only difference between me and a sister who "takes the easy way out" is my love for what's naturally mine and my desire to represent realness at all times.

Jasmyne, if you keep representing, and I keep representing, won't be long before sista's start looking up to us and not Malibu Barbie.

Love always,
your sista, N.D.

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Tracey

Wow! Part of the reason this issue persists in the black community comes from our own black people continuing to believe in several of the untruthful and heavily biased myths that you listed in your post.

First, ALL black folks caught hell during slavery. No one had it harder or easier! No one got more "respect" than the other. That is a flat-out untruth!!! They were slaves! Respect was not even an issue on the table. You need to read Harriet Jacobs narrative if you think being light-skinned was an advantage during slavery.

Being in the house was not a gift. The majority of slave women working in the house were the FIRST subjected to rape and sexual abuse. Slave women working in the house were subject to horrific abuse and beatings from white mistresses who were frustrated and angry that their white husbands and sons were having sex with slave women. House slaves were subjected to beatings or death if anything came up broken or missing in the house. House slaves were often denied complete access to their children, so they could be free to care and nurse the white children in the household day and night.

You wrongly labeled all black sororites with the paper bag test and only SOME sororities in CERTAIN areas practiced this horrific ideal, not all. More black churchs and social clubs were regularly guilty of using the paperbag or the comb test!

I wear my hair in a ponytail because I got tired of random black women saying "how good" my hair is and touching it like it was an exhibit. To me, black hair has always been a burden whether it is straight or natural. I always had some black woman's big mouth commenting about what I SHOULD be doing with my hair. How about EVERYONE mind their own business about folk's hair?

And maybe when black men stop celebrating and dating women with the long, flowing fake weaves or women from other races going on and on about their "purty hair" maybe black women will stop worrying about hair.

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